Yoona Doesn't Deserve The Hate That She Gets Seriously 
by, 03-08-2011 at 12:13 AM (1034 Views)
Though still considered a rumor since Yoong never really talked about this, I think it’s an open secret between Yoonaddicts how Yoong’s mom left her when she was young. There might have been a divorce or some misunderstanding that falls along that line between her parents but at the end of the day, the sparkling truth remains, Im Yoona does not have a mother. This is the safest assumption that we can have.
And in speaking of that, I mean the existence of a motherly figure behind her all through these years. In the sense that I felt heartbroken upon learning that Sooyoung’s mother never really wanted her as a daughter for she wants a son, the pain is deeper when we talk about Yoona who never really had the chance to feel the love of a mother at all. At least Sooyoung’s mom has accepted the fact of having her as a daughter and went on showering her all the love in the world. In Yoong’s case, it’s different. She is not the type to talk about familial relations but we have heard about her father and sister, but as for her mother, there’s none. Reminds me during Sukira back in 2009 when Leeteuk asked them about their song Dear Mom, the girls were all crying talking about their moms but Yoona kept her silence. I guess the others know about it since they never pushed the topic on her but it makes me wonder what she actually felt when they were singing the song. Was she really indifferent? For all the years growing up without one that she doesn’t feel any pain at all when talked about matters like this. Or was she a little bit envious? Of how the girls all have their loving parents with them and that Fany, although orphaned with her mother, had felt what it is like to have one. Was she sad? That even if her mother is still alive, it’s as good as if she has died because they never even talked with one another?
Things like that. And in a highly traditional country like Korea, family matters are very important. Some parents even go to the point of researching a future in-law’s family tree to make sure that their offspring is being given a worthy spouse. Family is a very important factor which is why being an orphan or coming from a broken family is quite an issue that people can even use it against you.
It might be the reason why Yoona, in as much as possible, tries to live up in debunking the stereotype of “a bad child because s/he does not have a parent to guide her/him”. It makes perfect sense how when asked what she wants to do most after SNSD, she said that she wants to be a good wife and perfect mother. Probably to make up for all the things that she has never experienced. This kind of attitude, the kind which instead of the option to repeat history; she has made it a point to make sure that her child will never experience the suffering that she has gone through.
I believe that she makes up the absence of her mother to the presence of the girls around her. And this is the reason why I believe that even if all girls pitch on the “nothing without nine” slogan, Yoona will always be the one who hopes till end that it will forever remain that way. Even if she has her separate activities, she will always prefer going back to the dorm and see her eight sisters slash mothers waiting for her. Even when So Nyuh Shi Dae disappears, her friendship with Kim Taeyeon, Jung Sooyeon, Lee Sunkyu, Hwang Miyoung, Kim Hyoyeon, Kwon Yuri, Choi Sooyoung, and Seo Joohyun will forever remain that way.
Remember when her skirt-lifting controversy with Tiffany came up? She mentioned being scared of cameras for a while. It’s understandable; with the press trying to follow her every move. Some fans still can’t believe that she actually had that camera-phobia with her being constantly surrounded by cameras. But can’t you see? That’s where her courage shows. That even if she actually had to worry about it, she still faced the world with that smile. The thing that actually amused me is how Yoona has had countless of controversies before but she notes that as the one she was scarred the most. She said that it distressed her as the controversy went to the extent that even her relationship with Tiffany was affected.
All that is part and parcel of her role as a center.
And it such a huge responsibility to keep up with the role indicated for her while maintaining that relationship with her members. To be the center of a nine-member group, there has got to be some ill feelings cultivated from the lesser acknowledged members, right?
For in as much as outsiders try to claim that they do understand, the bond that the girls share is something that we can never comprehend. That the closest thing we can make out of why there are no jealousy between the members and Yoona is because Yoona is never the type of person who will harbor negative feelings from other people towards herself.
Yoona does not appear as a person who is thirsty for fame. As I look at it, she is this normal girl who just happened to have the dream of being on a stage. She worked hard for that dream and that is where she is now. The cherry on top being her role as the center.
However, what most people fail to see is that being center, she gets to be the official ‘face’; but with this, it also means, she has to hold back in her singing and dancing. The ‘center’ role in itself is her responsibility, thus she is given lesser opportunities to show why she is standing at that stage. Giving her fewer opportunities to actually prove herself worthy of that ‘center’ role.
But instead of giving up, you see this girl doing her best in improving. She gets one line or two but she claims it as her own. She makes the most out of it, EVERY SINGLE TIME. She is a great dancer but people often forget that; which is why when she’s on stage, she burns it up and gives it her best shot.
She may not be SNSD’s best singer or dancer but when she gets the chance to prove herself, may it be modeling or acting, she grabs it. And for this attitude, KOREA LOVES HER. This may come off as a shock to you but most of Yoona’s antifans are actually non-Koreans (ie international fans). We see headlines about the girl leading a poll and being friends with Goo Hye Sun, Go Ara, and Lee Jongseok among others and some ask again why it’s her all over again.
Because Korea loves this girl.
Before, when people say that Yoona is talentless and useless and that she does not deserve to be the center of SNSD, I have this half-agreeing/half-disagreeing part in me. I guess it’s because I’ve been part of those people who gets blinded by the spotlight pointed at her. The brightness affects my sense of vision that I look at the dimmer part of the stage to get away from it. However, in doing so, I fail to realize that if a mere audience like me finds it blinding to look at such brightness, how much more does it feel for the person to whom that light is pointing to?
Im Yoona is a wonderful person. A fragile being. An innocent child. And this is why the girls are very protective of her. And I leave with the message that if our beloved favorites could get along with the idea of this Im Choding being the center, why can’t we?
They say her being a center is a blessing and a curse.
I say it's more of a curse that which she is carrying.
But seeing her carry it as if it’s some kind of blessing is something that is worth every respect, love, and admiration there is in this Yooniverse.
credit: This article originally posted in Soshified by user Bam the Great